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Hi Patrick,I’m in a situation where I have to tell a colleague they aren’t dressed appropriately. The situation is that I’m male, she’s female, and the issue is that she dresses a bit too nicely at times (read: inappropriately so). It’s not too bad, and it doesn’t happen all the time, but it happens enough that I need to say something (especially when we’re having customer- facing events). I would like to get the message across without embarrassing her, without affecting our working relationship, and without having to resort to corporate/HR BS. Any ideas? Confidently Confused.

Hey Confidently Confused: I have one question for you: are you this woman’s superior in any way? And just to be clear, “superior” doesn’t mean being older or being a man. You say “colleague” so I’m guessing you’re not. So if you’re not her professional superior, it’s not your place to be commenting on the appropriateness of her attire—at all. Heck, even if she is a subordinate, it’s still pretty inappropriate to say anything about her appearance. And I don’t know what you mean exactly by dressing “too nicely, inappropriately so.” You might be saying she’s dressing up too much—like going black tie to a business caj lunch—but I’m think you mean dressing too attractively and couldn’t think of a better way to say you think she dresses like a slut sometimes. But here’s the deal, Con.

Con, that’s a matter of opinion—your opinion—and you’re not the ruling party. For whatever reason, men think they have the authority to tell women how to dress in the workplace, and they don’t.

Not only do you assume what she’s doing is unprofessional, you feel the urge to handle it yourself instead of going through the proper channels! You keep saying you “have to tell” her and that you “need to say something,” but you don’t, and there’s no way this won’t affect your working relationship if you do. The audacity! If it really is that big of an issue for you, Con. Pda Formats Get Hard (2015) Review Film. Con, you have to go through HR. I know you were hoping I could tell you some tactful, clever way to bring up the issue while avoiding the “BS,” but it’s the only option here that doesn’t make you look really bad. If you tell HR and she’s not breaking any dress code rules, too bad. Keep your damn mouth shut.

If her attire is actually inappropriate according to the dress code, however, HR has the authority to let her know. They’ll do it privately without embarrassing her and she won’t even have to know it was you, which keeps your working relationship from being affected. You know, by trying so hard to avoid the bullshit, Con. Con, you almost stepped in a big pile of it.

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